What should you do in minutes when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you’re not quite sure why or what to do about it? In this report, you’ll learn a simple technique to get to the heart of what you’re feeling and find the message inside, so that you can take actions to move you ahead.
So, what’s your first inclination when you feel edgy? Do you distract yourself by focusing on something else? Do you try to find something that happened, something you did, or someone to blame? Do you analyze it until you come up with a story that makes sense?
All these are natural inclinations that can have value. These approaches may alleviate or take your mind off of symptoms in the short run. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of this exact same feeling over and over. Identifying with the stories we tell about our adventures can make them stick and repeat. We tend to think our stories and tell them again and again, so our life replays in a self-fulfilling loop.
So, what can you do in these uncomfortable moments that would change things, guide you ahead, and initiate something new? Here’s a simple technique Named Accessing Your Mental Centerline.
The moment you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, instead of jumping right into analyzing it and finding a story to describe it, see if you can just sit with the sensation, be present with it, and get underneath it.
1. Add a mental pause, let go of thinking, and pay attention to the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: from the neck, through the center of your torso, to your lower abdomen. Putting your palms together in prayer posture, as in the picture above, can help you tune into this centerline. Focusing on sensations along your Emotional Centerline quiets the believing mind and enables you to get your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.
Inquire into the specific sensations in this area of your body. Is it tight, compressed, obstructed, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, raw, empty, tingly, fluttering, climbing…?
2. In other words, see if it’s possible to accept the senses completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can become knowledgeable about the felt sensation without telling a story about it or being absorbed by it.
3. See if you can label the exact feeling the feeling represents. You’ll feel a”yes” when you have the ideal label. Is it anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, joy, excitement,…?
4. Once you’ve identified the emotion you are feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the sensation along your Mental Centerline and address your query here. Notice what comes into your awareness. It could be a nonverbal knowing, specific words, an image, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something… Just notice what arises, stay with it, and let it grow in clarity.
If nothing appears in this time, see if you can maintain an awareness of your Mental Centerline as you go about your daily life. Notice what you know as you do this.
As you practice these four steps again and again, you’ll find you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in uncomfortable, edgy feelings or overly-identified along with your usual stories about what they mean. You’ll discover there is a deeper guidance under the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of everything you need to do in this moment. Occasionally this intellect is vastly different from the tales your mind is in the habit of telling.